Talking About Race & Racism

The Role of Resonance in Conversations about Race & Racism

What is resonance? When someone courageously shares, they need to know that you have heard them and support them. Often we just need to be listened to with empathy. We do not necessarily need advice or for someone to solve the problem. So we resonate to provide that support to each other. Here’s how to resonate:

Support Questions for RESONATING

• What did you appreciate about what was shared?
  • What parts moved you?
  • What strengths did you hear?
  • How did it make you feel?
  • What do you relate to what has been shared?
• Next, offer appreciation for what was shared:
  • Do not offer advice or ask questions.
  • Just appreciate what was shared.
  • Be respectful.
  • Maintain eye contact.
  • Stay focused on the person who is sharing.
• If you have a strong response to someone’s story because you relate to it, that’s great! You can share what you are feeling, but be careful not to launch into your own story and lose the connection with the person. You will be able to share your story next, after that person’s resonance time is over.

Finally, be willing to adapt instructional practices, classroom management, and motivational techniques.